As a 'member' of the single gay population, I'm left wondering what my romantic options for the future are. So far, to me, it seems to be:
A) Trawl the internet and input data that specifies what length and girth I like in a man, then IM, webcam or meet personally for 1 on 1 illicits (actually it doesn‘t have to be just 1 on 1 - of course it can be 1 on any number you chose to invite!).
B) Trawl the gay scene, where not only do you have to live with the label of your sexuality any other time, you are now in a gay bar and the opening line is usually "are you a top or bottom!"
C) Visit the anonymous sex zones - saunas, parks and anywhere else where 'married' men and so called 'straight' men that will not kiss but engage in faceless anal and oral sex, get off and leave.
So what’s it to be, A, B, or C?I'm sure there are plenty more options available that I have yet to find out (I'm a pretty niaeve gay really) but to tell you the truth, maybe ignorance is bliss in this instance. What I do notice though, is that there is a distinct lack of the possibility of romance with these options. Gone are the days when two people would glance at each other and feel butterflies in their stomach. They would hesitantly approach one another, arrange to meet up and spend time getting to know each other. All the while, they found each other increasingly irresistible and harder to resist by the end of each date. When they eventually had sex, (which could be any length of time, not just what Cosmopolitan magazine recommends that month) they knew that it was something much more than friction. They desired one other.
Don't get me wrong, I have been known to have sex with people who are not life partner material (I'm hardly a virgin so there is no soap box to stand on here) but I wonder where the romance has gone? Unfortunately, it feels that I’m being unrealistic when I think that I would like to meet a guy, go for dinner and have intelligent, adult conversation, without the assumption that sex is automatically on the cards. I don’t even think this experience exists unless you explicitly state it on your gaydar or bebo profile!!!!
So is that it? Because I am a man and because I am gay, then I should resign myself to a life that consists of A, B, or C in the hope that one of those nameless cocks is attached to someone worth spending time with?! I hope not, because I’ve got to expect more for myself.
